I have two families.  How about you?

One might think I am talking about my families divided by divorce or the family I acquired with marriage.  When truly, I am speaking of my earthly family and my blessed Holy family.  Upon great reflection, here are the lessons I've learned from both.

The lessons I've learned from my earthly family are quite frankly, toxic behaviors unbecoming of who I want to be.
1st, how to be judgmental.
2nd, how to hold a grudge.
3rd, how to be unforgiving.
4th, how to have the last word.
5th, how to keep fighting for the sake of "being right".
6th, how to drudge up the past and use it to inflict pain and shame.
7th, how to love with conditions.

The lessons I've learned from my blessed Holy family, Jesus, Mary and Joseph have taught me WHOSE I am and who I want to be like every single day.
1st. how to pray for myself and others.
2nd, humility.
3rd, how to forgive myself and others.
4th, how to forgo the last word.
5th, how to walk away from chaos with grace.
6th, how to be compassionate toward others.
7th, how to love unconditionally.

The old behaviors are fading.  The new ones are challenging at times.  But, by His graces and mercies, by His endless love, I am a beloved daughter and I know that truth.  I know that I know that I know that I know.  My friend Sam says that.  There is and never will be again, a doubt in my heart or mind to that truth.

My prayer for you is the same that I pray for myself ~ a prayer for peace attributed to Saint Francis of Assisi.

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace:

where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy.
O divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console,
to be understood as to understand,
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

Peace, love and blessings always.

Founder of Come to the Table
COLC | Speaker | Educator | MSN, RN


  1. Reaching in the direction of God can NEVER b wrong .- In that space there is No fear.- blessings to ALL who keep God close to their hearts.
    Erin K Dufour AUTHOR  02/12/2023 06:43 PM Central
    Whole heartedly agree Maryann. Amen❣️
  2. Erin - this is beautiful and such a great reminder of where we should be pointed to learn the important things. Love you my friend! ❤️
    Erin K Dufour AUTHOR  02/12/2023 06:44 PM Central
  3. Erika Rutherford  07/31/2022 12:57 PM Central
    This is amazing. I can't wait for the second one!! You are making great strides and are an example to follow keep posting.
    Erin K Dufour AUTHOR  08/01/2022 07:52 AM Central
    Thank you my sweet friend. Doing the heart work has been challenging to say the least, but when you know God's hand is leading the way and molding a greater creation, it's worth all the tears and aha moments.
  4. These words are what I needed to hear this morning!! Your analogy/comparison is spot on, & we must strive to achieve those virtues of our Holy Family…moment by moment❤️ Thanks, Erin, for this insightful & truthful reflection 😇
    Erin K Dufour AUTHOR  08/01/2022 07:54 AM Central
    Thank you. Perfectly imperfect, but striving to be all He created me for.
  5. Sharon Bergeron  07/31/2022 09:59 AM Central
    Love it you always seem to say the right things as to where I am in my life - I pray the Holy Spirit continues to fill you with grace and inspiration
    Erin K Dufour AUTHOR  08/01/2022 07:55 AM Central
    Sharon, I'm praying that same prayer with you. Grateful He brought us together in the mess of life. You are in my heart and prayers daily.
  6. …… right ‘on point’!!!!! AMEN !!!!!
    Erin K Dufour AUTHOR  08/01/2022 07:58 AM Central
    Divine aha moments of reflection. Love how He reveals the beauty from the mess and reveals the better path.

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